Parenting Styles

Like a snowflake, everyone has different parenting styles. Instead of judging and criticizing, we need to embrace this difference and we would be much better for it.

Take peoples comments like a grain of salt, because after all, you are the mom/dad, not them. This is something I struggle with and I know I am not alone. It’s hard to get criticized, on anything, but on how you parent your little babe is probably the worst.

I for one, have of what seems like quirks, “rules” I want for my kids. I absolutely hate when people judge them and especially despise when people defy them. Like I said, they may seem silly, but they are what my husband and I decided on and believe me, talked long about. It is simply what we wish for our kids. Our parenting style is unique to us, and that is 100% okay!

For example, we really do not like when people canoodle our kids. LIKE. AT. ALL.! Kissing our kids on the lips or near should ONLY be (in our eyes) for the parents, mommy and daddy…the end. More myself then my hubs on this one, but we also appreciate when people wash their hands and take off their shoes when they come over to see us. I’m a germaphobe, but I am also practical. I do not think my husband and mine wishes are out of line at all.

As a parent to a toddler and an expecting one now too, I strive to be the best mom I can be. I want to raise our children with poise, kindness and ambition. We have rules, but we also believe our kids should, in the future, come up with their own ideas of rules and fairness to comply with. Seems a bit lax, but we want what is best for our kids without them getting EVERYTHING they want, when they want it. That, as we know, creates a brat! I for one should know, I was a little brat about thing when I was younger. Yes, I know, it is bound to happen, in one form or another, but if we all could just stop judging one another’s parenting style and embrace that each family is different then I think this community can strive even more and people would be more open to solicited/unsolicited advise.

It pains me to see mommy bloggers getting hated on for the littlest thing. We have to remember it is their choice and that is what best fits for their family. Something that you say “no” about, someone else might say “yes”. Some parents choose to face their kid forward before two years of age (although in some states now, this is against the law). This is all okay! It might seem shocking, but there is no reason to point a finger and judge them. Because lets face it, we all are struggling with the balance of yes and no, right and wrong.

So guys, love me, hate me, judge me, hug me, but I for one am putting my foot down and being open to everyones parenting style on the interwebs, out at Target and in my own life.

 

 

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Rachel Nardi-Brettman

Rachel is a wife and mother of two who lives in the suburbs of Chicago, Illinois. She gave up her job in the corporate world to be a stay at home mom full time and raise her family. Some of her hobbies and passions include baking, gardening, and all things DIY. Rachel was diagnosed with Celiac Disease when she was 21. She loves to share gluten free baking tips and recipes for others who suffer from similar allergies. She started blogging when her son, Parker, was born. Her daughter, London, was born with some complications and had a brief visit to the NICU. Some of the topics she enjoys writing about include the difficulties of having 2 kids under 2, the stress and effects the NICU has on mothers, and the ups and downs of her breastfeeding journey.

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