Well hello! It’s been quite some time and I seriously can not believe I finally get to write this blog. Yep, as the title suggests, my son has finally slept through the night! It’s been a long time coming and we are so beyond proud of him. So, how’d we do it?
What worked best for us is a combination of the Ferber Method and the Cry It Out Method. Now, this is not for everyone and it was truly the hardest thing, like ever, but we managed and found the results to be life changing! If you have been following along, then you know my dearest son (plus me) have not been sleeping well .. until now!
If you are not familiar with the Ferber Method, it is a technique invented by Dr. Richard Ferber to help solve infant sleep problems. It involves a type of “baby-training” your child to self-soothe by allowing them to cry for a allotted amount of time before receiving external comfort. The end goal is having them learn to put themselves to bed.
Traditionally the time between check-in’s are a little longer, but we adapted them to our needs. It was hard on us to hear him cry(scream), so we tweaked the timing. When we did check-in, we stayed for 2 minutes maximum, no talking, just sushing and patting his back or booty. Even if he did not settle, we left the room and waited until the next check-in, hoping and praying he would fall asleep.The first night was hell. Very heartbreaking. I contemplated just going into his room, picking him up and holding him. I am so glad my husband is a stronger being then I, because I firmly believe having us NOT pick him up really helped him realize that when he cries, we will not rush in. It took about a week. Some nights were rough, waking in the middle of the night crying(screaming), and sometimes we just had to co-sleep. Yes, we did a little co-sleeping and I know it is not a good habit, but you have to do what you have to do. I needed sleep, it was over 10 months, closer to 1 year of interrupted sleep. Mama was tired!
After about 6 days of the Ferber Method, we switched to the Cry It Out Method. Why did we change? Well, he is one smart cookie and knew we would come in, so we decided to do the full blown Cry It Out. He did not cry for long, at this point he was already familiar with crying a bit before sleeping. About a week of this, he finally understood to self-soothe himself to sleep.
He still has nights where he wakes up crying, but he usually puts himself back to sleep before the 5 minute mark for us to check-in. He sleeps anywhere from 10.5-12 hours a night. Yay! We usually aim to put him down around 7pm and he wakes up around 5:45am. Everyday is different, but he usually gets at least 10 hours of sleep a night, which is just amazing because before this, he would wake anywhere from every 2 to 4 hours a night.
If anyone has any questions, please comment below. I hope this information helps you get some sleep! I totally know and would love to buy you a latte.